For the past two weeks, Spencer has been in a partial hospital program. It’s been tough. I realize that there are all sorts of kids there with a variety of problems but he’s been thrown in with kids who definitely have some serious behavior issues. He’s been so upset because kids are calling him nasty names and saying mean things to him. He’s not used to this and, quite frankly, I don’t want him to start thinking this is acceptable.
He caught me at one of those horrible “mom moments” when I don’t have an answer for him. He reminded me that I promised him I’d find him a place where he wasn’t bullied anymore but he feels this place has bullies as well. How do I explain to him that throughout his life there are going to be insensitive and ignorant people? It’s hard enough being a main stream ‘tween in this day and age, how does a kid with severe intellectual disabilities but a heart of gold and sensitive as can be deal with this? (Suggestions are gratefully accepted!) As The Safety Mom and a family safety expert, this is something I feel I should be tackling for all parents out there!
So today, we start making our rounds of long term placements schools. I back in that place of “I don’t know what I don’t know.” How do I determine if a school is appropriate for him? I’m so grateful to my special needs advocate who sent me over three pages of interview questions to ask today. I wasn’t nervous until this morning but now I am. I’m so desperate to find a place where Spencer will not only learn but, more importantly be happy! Stay tuned….
Alison Rhodes is the founder of Safety Mom Enterprises and Safety Mom Solutions, the premier baby proofing and child safety company in the New York, New Jersey and Connecticut area. Alison is a family safety expert, TV personality and consultant.