The hot topic in the news this week was the plight of a 7 year-old adopted boy from Russia who was dumped on a plane back to his homeland with a note that stated that the adoptive mother no longer wanted him because he was violent and had psychiatric issues. The mom, Torry Hansen, felt she was deceived by Russian officials as to the mental stability of the boy.
I’ll be the first to sympathize with the issues this mom must have dealt with in managing the boy. It’s not easy. But she’s a nurse! Is she really trying to make us believe she exhausted all resources to find help? I have to assume that if she was seeking to adopt a child that she desperately wanted to be a mom. Didn’t she understand that if she had given birth to this child there could have been issues as well? What would she have done then – dropped him off on a door step somewhere?!!?
I go back to my thought that they should require people to have a license to be a parent. Yes, it’s frustrating. And no, we don’t always get the child we imagined, whether we give birth or adopt. But life doesn’t give us any guarantees and we need to step up to the plate and deal with the curve balls life sometimes throws our way!
I asked my community whether she should be brought up on charges. What I heard is a resounding yes! You can’t just discard a child because they don’t meet your expectations.
Alison Rhodes is the founder of Safety Mom Enterprises and Safety Mom Solutions, the premier baby proofing and child safety company in the New York, New Jersey and Connecticut area. Alison is a family safety expert, TV personality and consultant.